Do you brush off positive feedback say “Thank Youâ€

This is the season of year-end performance review. As I conduct performance reviews for my team and receive my own, I reflected upon my inner journey in receiving feedback. Growing up, I learned to brush off praises and compliments. Perhaps, it was childhood conditioning where my mom would say "Aiyo, she's not smart la. Your daughter is better, so disciplined, so smart." I internalized that as: . , . . Whenever I had any achievement, I would say " ." When others complimented me, my reflex is - " , . ' ." I would brush off any idea that I did a good job and focus on what could be better. I want to, yet I resisted acknowledging my achievements or good qualities. It is as though it wasn't right if I gave myself even a moment to feel good about it. As though, I don't deserve it. I felt held back, regardless of how much I have done or achieved. Deep down, I resisted acknowledging myself because I was afraid. I was afraid that this will mean that I have stopped being humble and will not improve anymore. It was tiring. One day, I went to a workshop and there, I learned to choose a more empowering thought: "I can acknowledge my progress AND be better" Yes! It wasn't mutually exclusive. I do not have to disregard my progress or achievement. I can hold them in my heart and bring them along as I move forward. I started practicing allowing myself to acknowledge my progress. It wasn't easy to feel that I deserve it. I used to only believe the performance improvement feedback and would feel awkward if I hear positive feedback. Now, I learn to say thank you. I spend more time celebrating success and I gained more confidence in what I am doing. I feel . Allow yourself to acknowledge the journey you have made and accept the positive feedback you receive. Instead of brushing it off, allow it to land within you. I am interested to know, ? Please mention the word **AFFECTATION** and tag RMmEwNjo5OGMwOjM2MDA6OjEwMw== when applying to show you read the job post completely (#RMmEwNjo5OGMwOjM2MDA6OjEwMw==). This is a beta feature to avoid spam applicants. Companies can search these words to find applicants that read this and see they're human.